(midway through a conversation on an afternoon stroll)
Me: The reason we say, “I love you,” is so you always know, because life is fragile and love is the most important gift we can give.
Hank: I have been thinking about this and if you or pai (dad) or Molly (Hank’s soon to be born sister) ever die I will just say a feitiço (magic spell) and bring you back. I have been practicing my magic. I am very good. And I have the fairy door so the fairies can help me, too.
Me: (stopping in the middle of the side walk) Oh, Hank. I know you are good at magic, I see it every day, but there are some things that magic cannot fix. Death is one of them.
Hank: But I could do it.
Me: No. It is not possible. There are some things more powerful than magic. There is no bringing someone back when they die. When someone’s journey ends there is no returning. This is the hardest truth in life. It is hard to imagine life without the ones you love and that is why we try not to, but it happens every day. Like your prima (cousin) Daniela, her pai (dad) died. Can you imagine living your life without your pai (dad)?
Hank: No. (pause) What was his name?
Me: (smiling) We all called him Santos, although that was his last name.
Hank: And he was very nice?
Me: Yes. He was very special. He had a way of making you feel like the most important person in the room. He knew everyone and everyone knew him, and he is missed very much everyday. No magic, no matter how powerful can fix that.
Me: But did you know, because I know you have been studying very hard o meu Feiticeiro (my little wizard) that there is magic for memory and there is magic for pictures and images and there is magic to make stories dance to life that you can study and as long as you remember someone and you hold them in your heart they never leave you.
Hank: That is the magic I will study.
Me: Well, you can’t go wrong with that.