Me: (on the sofa reading) Good morning, pal.
Me: How did you sleep?
Hank: You know how I slept.
Me: I meant after you crawled in bed with us?
Hank: Fine. I slept fine in your bed… where’s papa?
Me: He gave up and went and slept in your bed.
Me: Speaking of papa… I have something important I want to say.
Me: I don’t want to evict papa from his bed one more night. If you are struggling with sleep, you may come and get me, and I will come to your room. Our bed may appear big, but it is the perfect size for just he and I.
Hank: I’m sorry.
Me: I am sorry you’re having troubles sleeping in your new room. You weren’t that way in the beginning; you were loving your new room.
Hank: It’s different now. I regret my decision to leave my sister’s room. I miss her. I feel alone in my new room and then I get nervous.
Me: I am listening.
Hank: I don’t know… there are new sounds. I can hear people on the street sometimes and it makes me feel like they are right there with me. I can hear the elevator and when it arrives on all the floors and clicking and ticking, the wind makes the windows rattle…
Me: All very new sounds.
Hank: And they all make me nervous and then I can’t sleep.
Me: I understand.
Hank: I wish I could just go back to my sister’s room.
Me: You can.
Me: You can change your mind.
Me: Did you know that uncle Andy moved to a whole new state, got a whole new job and lived in a whole new house and regretted the decision immediately.
Hank: When was this?
Me: A few years ago.
Hank: That is horrible.
Me: No, it wasn’t horrible, it was a problem with a solution. He thought about it and then changed his mind and moved again.
Hank: And now he is happy and has a family.
Hank: But Molly is sleeping in my bed and (beginning to panic)…
Me: I know that we gave Molly’s bed away, but we would have done that anyway around this time and there are always solutions.
Hank: Bunk beds?
Me: A sound investment, but all of the solutions involve money I didn’t think we’d be spending so we will need some time to budget and transition.
Hank: (relieved) That’s okay.
Me: Wonderful, let’s take a minute to map out a solution this afternoon, but whatever you do don’t tell you sister.
Me: If you do then we will hear of nothing else until our idea is achieved or abandoned.
Hank: I feel better already, mom, and who knows maybe I will stop being nervous. Just knowing I can change my mind is making me feel much better. I don’t think I will need to come to your room tonight.
Me: I’m glad. We are highly intelligent people with options. We can always come up with a solution if we stay calm and don’t panic. The one thing I know for certain are the best plans are made over coffee and chocolate milk! (getting up to start our day off right)
Hank: Thanks, mom.
Me: Thank you for being honest and telling me what you need.